Social networks make teens lonely and aggressive

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Social networks make teens lonely and aggressive

The girl’s legs are suspended by a hook. Hands tied behind his back. Mouth gagged. A fragile body is immersed in a bathtub filled to the brim with water. At first she tried to lift herself, but nothing came of it: the ropes pressed her wrists and ankles too much. After a minute, everything calmed down, only the last convulsion pierced the body.
This is not a feature film, but a home video from the Internet, which everyone posted to anyone on social networks. “He's cool!”, “Respect!”, “Sooner he pulled her out, he can still get around. It’s necessary to withstand 11 minutes. ” These are just a few comments on the video. Someone wrote that this is a production and the girl’s face probably has a mask with oxygen. I sincerely want to believe it. But even if this is so, is it worth it to distribute such videos on social networks? The dismemberment of animals close-up, the beating of homeless people and classmates, torture and four-legged, and two-legged ...
What social networks bring up our children?
BUT
Many of the readers will dismiss it: what does the social network have to do with it, it’s enough to turn on the TV, and even worse computer games. And they will be right, because back in the late 1980s, a five-year-old boy watched a cartoon about Beavis and Butthead on MTV. Cartoons tried to set fire to the house. And the boy also tried - as a result, the trailer in which his family lived and his two-year-old sister burned down.
In 1999, in the United States, two schoolchildren living in Littleton, Colorado, killed 12 of their classmates and injured 23, after which they shot themselves. Investigators found that the popular computer game Doom pushed the crime of adolescents. Future killers called classmates with whom they did not have a relationship (according to the plot of Doom, the hero is fighting with humanoid monsters).
In the 21st century, there have been more such cases. But still they are single. It is explained easily. When a child watches TV or plays a computer game, he realizes that all this is not real. Heroes are drawn, situations are fictional. But social networks, such as seemingly harmless at first glance, pose a serious threat.
SOCIAL ZOMBIES
The British scientist and writer Susan Greenfield proved that children brought up on social networks lose their ability to empathize. I don't want to take a word. But let's figure it out. According to the scientist, a child hanging on Facebook ceases to blush, take care of the interlocutor, build a real dialogue. Is it really so?
As the Institute of Psychology of the Russian Academy of Sciences explained to me, in social networks those means of communication that “remain behind the words” lose their importance. A person can easily hide or show missing experiences. Sex, age, social status, external attractiveness, ability to communicate become unimportant.
But the human brain is designed in such a way that we compose the impression of a person by 70 percent from non-verbal information. But in social networks it turns out that we turn off our brain. And they are ready to communicate with everyone without hesitation. And not only do they add anyone to friends, but they also require constant attention.
- In 1999, people wrote in LiveJournal that they had a cat, in 2004 they uploaded photos and videos of this cat, in 2010 they could tweet once an hour that their cat had sneezed, Susan explains Greenfield - Most users begin to tell each other that no one needs to know, simply because they have such an opportunity. This is reminiscent of the behavior of a child who says: “Mom, look, I put on my sock!” - and constantly needs to be paid attention to, because in this way he receives confirmation of his own existence. And children use the same model of behavior in real life.
But in real life nobody is interested in reacting to every news of a new mole on the body, about soup for dinner. Friends and acquaintances are not ready to immediately respond to a new photo and simply are not able to communicate for 24 hours. And it becomes a tragedy.
Many psychologists claim that social networks help the modern young generation not to feel lonely, they are struggling with depression. But in fact, the opposite is true: the child is so used to the fact that he is constantly evaluated and noticed that in a real environment it is difficult for him. And either he has depression, or he completely goes into virtual networks, fencing off from the world.
A child brought up in social networks does not know how to understand people, is not able to competently speak and build a dialogue, does not bother himself with such feelings as sympathy. And if you allow the baby into this virtual world, then the car will bring up the car. The Terminator at least had physical invulnerability, and these cyber kids, even psychologically, are not ready for life in a yet virtual world.
NOTHING WILL HAPPEN
But this is not the tip of the iceberg. Children erase much more important boundaries. They do not feel responsible. A child can imagine himself on the Web by anyone, show only his advantageous features. He chooses with whom to be friends and with whom not. And if a friend didn’t arrange something, he can be easily ignored. And no need to explain anything.
It is also easy to offend a person, humiliate and trample. And all this will get away with it, and the child will not see the tears and feelings of his enemy, he will not be ashamed.
- The younger generation is crazy about social networks, but rarely imagines the consequences of excessive openness and hyper-communicativeness. The race for the number of friends, illegibility in contacts, irresponsibility and doubtful awareness of privacy-settings of profiles, as well as good intentions, lead straight to hell, - says the founder of Kaspersky Lab, Evgeny Kaspersky.
The circuit then begins to spin up on its own. Let’s leave out that pedophiles, maniacs, thieves are sitting in social networks. About this and so are the treatises. There are threats and more terrible. Allegedly friends throw a cool video. And everyone watches a girl being drowned in the bath. And then this friend writes first: “He is her cool!”
- The behavior of a person under the influence of a group changes especially strongly. The law of the crowd works. There is a stupor of the mass, a decrease in the general level of intelligence. Each individual would not have done so, and in the crowd, personal responsibility for what has been done is removed, ”says psychologist Nadezhda Vasilyeva. - And in adolescence, the desire to be accepted into a peer group is stronger than any other need. Remember the movie "Scarecrow" by Rolan Bykov, where teenagers, succumbing to the influence of informal class leaders, announce a boycott to a girl who is different from everyone. Each social group has its own “outsiders” - children who, for various reasons, have become outcasts. And few teenagers will want to stand up for the one against whom the majority have taken up arms, so as not to be also an outcast group.
A teenager automatically answers his friend: “Yes. Cool! And I would have beaten her. " And then he is supported by another 10 - 20 - 100, and sometimes thousands of others like him. Cool! And not one recalls that this is a murder. On the contrary, more and more emphasis is placed on the fact that "the dude killed, but he had nothing, and the video broke all records." The course is indicated.
WHY NOT?
And a terrible thought arises in the child’s head: maybe try?
- With the spread of social networks on the Internet, the phenomenon of “publicizing” private life arose. In order to increase their rating, teenagers shoot violent scenes on the video (they are very popular because they cause strong feelings of the audience) and post them on their pages. Thus, the participants in the beating become the heroes of the films, and this adds courage. The cruelty is doubled, backed up by this drive, and is multiplied by the cruelty seen from the screen, ”Vasilyeva is sure.
They are heated by their peers, and often mentally unhealthy adults. And the child commits some minor offense - beats a neighbor or kicks a kitten. And puts it on the Web. They shout to him: come on again!
It turns out that a child who was taught by social networks to easily deal with objectionable ones, often humiliating them, is provoked to cruelty. So the social network becomes the very controlling mechanism that controls users at its discretion.

DISASTER SCALE
They don’t know with whom they are “friends”
American pediatricians have identified a correlation between the promotion of online violence and violent behavior among adolescents. At the Internet Solutions for Kids center in Santa Anna (California), they are convinced that the most serious impact on the psyche of a child is made by cruel videos distributed on social networks. Teenagers who said that they “most often” visited Internet resources containing videos of “real fights, shootings and killings of people” turned out to be 5 times more prone to violent behavior than their peers who did not visit such websites.
Russian children always fly ahead of the engine. According to the results of the international study “Children of EU Online”, Russian children start using the Internet later than European ones. On average since 10 years. But at the same time, children from Russia use the Internet more actively and with greater risk. Indeed, the majority (80 percent) of Russian children wander on the Internet absolutely independently. Moreover, more than a quarter of children spend from 7 to 14 hours a week on the Web - that is, about one to two hours a day, every sixth child - from 14 to 21 hours, every fifth - more than 21 hours a week. Some of these children literally live on the Web, spending online two or three days a week. More than 80% of Russian teenagers have a profile on a social network, one in six of them has more than 100 friends, 4% of children have more than 300 friends on a social network.
“I was amazed by the data of OnGuard Online: 22% of users of social networks from 16 to 24 years old do not know at all the people with whom they are“ friends ”, warns Yevgeny Kaspersky. - There is no guarantee that private information from profiles and “walls” will not fall into the “wrong” hands. And remember that kidnapping and maniacs are just the probabilistic tip of the iceberg.
Experts believe that social networks should control everything that users post, and pay special attention to children. But so far no one has any responsibility. As reported on the social network VKontakte, the user has the right to create any group, upload any information, including videos of cruel content ...
PSYCHOLOGIST ADVICE
How to protect your child from online cruelty?
- From childhood, you need to accustom to independence and responsibility for their actions, and most importantly - to form the ability to empathy and empathy.
- Instill moral values in a child only by personal example, which will teach him to see kindness in every person.
- The family must stop physical punishment. Otherwise, do not be surprised at child cruelty - for its manifestations for the child are in the order of things!
- Carefully and correctly control with whom the child is friends, what he does, what he watches and reads. Limit time watching TV and computer games. But not by direct order or ban, but by offering other interesting activities, preferably active and in the fresh air.
- Find a lesson for the child to his liking, where he can give a way out of the accumulated energy and get the opportunity to assert himself and achieve something.
- More often talk with your child about his attitude to various social phenomena, other people, discuss films and books. This will fill the cultural vacuum.
- Teach you how to react to aggressors (ignore or turn what is happening as a joke, etc.).
- Any teenager needs your conviction: “You are strong!” A self-confident person will not prove his significance by cruelty.
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Bad example
It's easy to blame teens ... And adults? Thousands of serious people who seemed to be busy at work and at home spend hours on Facebook or Odnoklassniki, describing almost every step they took: “I was at the restaurant, delicious ...”, “I went to the conference - it’s boring”.
Maybe adults don’t use teenage methods like scandalous and terribly cruel videos to raise their own popularity on the social network, but the very fact that mom (dad) got hooked on empty (often alas) communication with unfamiliar “friends” is already example. An example for their children.
Now it often happens that mom and son chat with each other: “Do you go to the kitchen, turn off the kettle?” Both are sitting at their computers and unable to escape from the virtual world, just to sit together for tea, discuss problems or just chat.
There is an emotional burnout of both adults who are hooked on the Web and their children. The second generation ...
In fact, there are still no in-depth studies on how social networks affect the psyche of people of different ages. There are interesting scientific works, but so far local ones.
It's a pity. The next generation, grown up and brought up for the most part by the Internet, will be significantly different from the current generation, not to mention our predecessors. But in which direction? How will they change the real world? Go understand today ...
Alexander MILKUS, editor of the education department

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[Матушкин Андрей Николаевич]

Thanks for working on the forum.

 

[Патрушев Михаил Владимирович]

Social networks make teens lonely and aggressive


Thank! All this is sad.

 

[Евгений СБ]

Thank.

 

[David Mamedov]

I don't quite agree. Yet this is individual for each teenager. For me, social networks and the Internet, on the contrary, helped me make friends.

 

[Turdubaev Dastan]

Не совсем согласен. Все же это индивидуально для каждого подростка. Для меня соц сети и интернет наоборот помогли завести друзей.

Согласен. Не все подростки становятся агро и прочее. Это все равно, что говорить: "игры убивают детей"

 

[Детективное агентство Одесса]

This will not always be the case. Don't write nonsense

 

[Kiril Harchevnikov]

There is a difference between myth and legend) and here)

 

[Частный детектив Азербайджан]

In the 21st century, this has become a degradation.