How to return to build relationships with your own child

[Бюро Рысь]

Is it necessary to start talking at all? Is it time for this? And what is the purpose? Isn’t it easier to leave the situation, or rather let go ....: D for another 5 years. And after coming of age, explain what you want.

Paternal feeling is strong! Although 11 years old has been serious about this, the question is why I did not find it before, why did I lose sight of it? I doubt that they hid much.

 

[Частный детектив Нижний Новгород]

I don’t know if I dare to advise you either. In my opinion, you yourself have formed a relationship with your child. You didn’t have a relationship with your wife, but is the child here? For 11 years they didn’t see her and didn’t make themselves felt, as I understand from your letter they didn’t render any help to her, and when she became an adult your father’s feelings woke up, and where were they before ?! Sorry, this is my opinion - you lost it.

 

[souzer]

Can anyone advise me on the strategy and the ways to bypass the mother to inform the child that her dad loves her and that she wants to restore relations.

Sorry to interfere ... but I can’t ask a question ... but are you sure dad, not an uncle? Although, in this way we still do not know whether it is true or not. Hire someone, collect information about the environment of the child, enter the trust ... and then the child will be among the missing ... And who will prove that you are the father? Sorry if I offended you with mistrust ...
(I’m talking about my own, about sore - missing children) ..

 

[Детективное агентство ОПЦИОН]

Here you really need information first, and then decide how and what to do.
My opinion is that it is necessary to start from afar, so as not to injure the child, through the class teacher, or maybe still get into a conversation with his mother. By law, you have the right to meet, I understand that no one has deprived of parental rights. And why it is necessary to collect information, it is not known who is currently living with the mother and whether the child considers the father of a completely different person. Then, I think that all further attempts at rapprochement are a taboo! Unless, of course, the child is happy!
No offense, but 11 years, something there was no time and opportunity! Offended by his wife ?! The child is holy, he did not offend you!

 

[Павел]

Gentlemen, I will clarify my position even more. And performance.

I understand that the desire to regain relations with my daughter sounds very funny from the lips of a 42-year-old man, especially after so many years. But I will never give up my own child. I will not go to shows and go and look like a clown.

I thank everyone for their advice and withdraw my request for advice.
I’ll just put the problem for professionals.




Is there a specialist who will be able to collect as much information as possible about the child and mother, Lifestyle, circle of acquaintances, interests, etc. As they say from the moment of conception to the present.?
I need an absolutely complete picture. Time and costs are not limited. Of course, within a reasonable framework.
Thank!

 

[Матушкин Андрей Николаевич]

Is there a specialist who will be able to collect as much information as possible about the child and mother, Lifestyle, circle of acquaintances, interests, etc. As they say from the moment of conception to the present.?
I need an absolutely complete picture. Time and costs are not limited. Of course, within a reasonable framework.
Thank!

I recommended you a specialist.