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How often in the stories that girls tell you have to read: "I did not pay attention to it then, and in vain." Once again, we urge you to trust your intuition, not to brush aside the little things that alarm you.
In one of the first issues of the newsletter, we published "Signs, on the basis of which it is better to stop correspondence," and after it we received many more letters with different tips. As a result, a rather impressive list of those very little things was formed that you need to pay attention to, think about, and draw conclusions.

Do not answer if in the first letter

* There are too many in the text !!!!!, ??????, ..... and )), etc.
* There are no capital letters, no commas, no dots in the text
* He begins to describe himself as super-sexual and asks how you do it
* He asks to send your candid photos
* He ends the letter "many kisses throughout you"
* There’s not even a small story about yourself, but only phrases like: “you are pretty,” “I would like to know you better,” “Hi, Iam here,” etc.
* He sent his photo in the same swimming trunks or blurry
* He writes that he is unemployed and has no education

Be careful if in the first letter

* He did not name you by name
* Or called you by another name
* You see a few more addresses where this same letter was sent
* He immediately calls you sweet, and a dream, etc., and represents how you walk along the beach, looking into each other's eyes and holding hands
* Immediately invites you to marry, "start a love story under a palm tree", offers to make American citizenship, fill your life with joy and happiness
* Speaks poorly of his ex-wife or ex-girlfriends
* Writes that he has been scammed (i.e. tricked by a scammer).
* Promises to pay for a visa and tickets if you come to him in America

Be especially vigilant if he

* Constantly trying to force you to report your not very good financial situation (this is a scam hunter trick)
* Invites you to America (Canada, Australia) "this summer"
* In the first letters, he offers to pay for a visa and tickets if you come to him in America
* He writes that he has been to Russia (Ukraine), but does not tell what he did there
* Very sparingly talks about his past
* Writes very vaguely about his work or even hints that his work is secret, and he has no right to talk about it
* Writes that his ex-wife or relatives died under mysterious (tragic) circumstances or died from unexplained diseases;
* Writes that he was married to Russian
* Writes about unpleasant childhood memories
* Accuses you of communicating with other men
* Asks you about previous men, up to the most personal moments
* Calls late at night to check if you are at home.
* Trying to make you feel guilty if you asked him a not-too-pleasant question

Gradually discontinue correspondence if he

* Writes that all Russians only want money
* Speaks poorly about Russians in general
* Tries to control you and constantly suspects something
* Sends several letters a day (or many SMS) and accuses you of not responding to him right away
* Insists to meet in 3 countries and refuses to book two rooms in the hotel, and also freaks out if you do this.
* He says that he was visited by a psychoanalyst for 4 years, and this helped him a lot.
* Requires that you come to him, although you are not ready for this yet
* After a short time, he suddenly sends you his candid photos
* You suddenly realize that from some point on the letters have acquired a clearly sexual connotation, and he writes nothing more
* Urges you to send candid photos;
* Offers money for your candid photos or photos of your girlfriends
* Almost does not ask for your photos at all, but asks for photos of children (especially daughters), possibly even naked

Think why

* He "chat" with you only during working hours and almost never on weekends and evenings (of course, in his time)
* You chat a lot, but on weekends and public holidays he does not go online and finds new reasons for this
* He almost never calls you at the weekend or in the evening from home
* He calls you, but does not give his phone number; or the phone he gave is always busy
* He can sit online almost the whole working day (this is strange, because a normal person needs to work at this time)
* He sits online for a long time with a certain frequency (when it can be assumed that these are the days of his duty, etc.)
* Does not ask you for a phone number, never tried to call you, does not say that he wants to hear your voice
* Almost never writes how he spent the weekend and last vacation
* He himself never once proposed to meet
* He skips your hints about the meeting or says that he is terribly busy now and in the next couple of years
* He categorically does not want to come to your country or your city
* It seems to you that he is telling completely unreal things
* The details of his stories, dates, phone numbers, addresses, names, etc. do not converge.
* He has sudden mood swings and unmotivated outbreaks of aggression

Watch out if he

* Says he has no photos (either no digital camera, or no scanner)
* After the first few photos no longer sends you his photos, even if you ask
* Sends low-quality and clearly old photos (now all normal people use digital cameras)
* Almost never answers your questions
* He asks a lot of questions, but does not comment on your answers in any way (he looks like a person who made himself a portrait of an ideal wife of 1000 points and carefully scrutinizes each candidate: he’ll go, he won’t go)
* Fixed on some ideas and often writes about the same
* Calls himself an exclusive man
* Speaks negatively about children and animals,
* Absolutely not interested in you, while writing huge letters about himself (a typical writer who loves only himself)
* Forgot about your birthday (at all)
* Does not congratulate you on major holidays (Valentine's Day, Christmas, New Year). Men sometimes don’t know about March 8
* I have never even tried to send you a gift through a delivery service or an ordinary parcel
* Writes nothing about his family
* Often says something to make you feel sorry for him
* He talks a lot about his ex-wife or girlfriend, and basically it turns out that "she is to blame for everything"
* Complains about problems and failures and blames other people for this: wife, parents, siblings, teachers, superiors, etc.
* He writes that his first marriage was very unsuccessful, and the wife after the divorce took all the money, seized the house and huge child support, that she was a very bad woman, and that she ruined his life
* Does not give you your home address, even when you say you want to send him a package
* Writes absolutely nothing about his work, about successes, promotion
* Writes that you cannot come to him because he does not want to introduce you to his children or acquaintances ahead of time
* He slips nationalistic statements.
Source: https://ladyfromrussia.com/rus/safety/s3.shtml

 

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Signs indicating that:
- the man is socially disadvantaged,
- he is likely to have mental disorders,
- He is prone to domination, cruelty and violence.

* He is very casually dressed (clothes may be too minty, dirty, smelling bad).
* He does not know how to eat decently.
* Takes some medication.
* He says that he took drugs, smoked weed, was an alcoholic, but was cured of it.

Be aware that former drug addicts and alcoholics may have mental problems. In addition, for a relapse, any situation that changes a settled life is sufficient. Marriage, all the more so, to a foreigner with emerging problems - these are very severe stresses for such people. Narcologists say that even love is contraindicated for them, since strong emotions can cause a breakdown and a new round of the disease.

* He is overly constrained: he does not know where to put his arms, legs and even his head.
* He has a gait of a self-doubt man.
* He endlessly repeats with pride that he feels like a child, and you notice that he behaves this way, especially in problem situations.
* Likes to speculate about injustice about ordinary life situations.

* He puts himself in the spotlight, as if you do not exist.
* He does not try to make you happy (I do not mean expensive gifts and gifts in general).
* Expects from you service, obedience, sitting locked up at home.
* Speaks primarily about himself and his desires.
* Or he is silent about himself, and you get the slightest detail, especially about your former men and intimate relationships with them.
* He does not trust you, constantly suspects something.
* He asks if you were beaten as a child, whether men or brothers raped you.
* You are constantly wrong, and he is not to blame for anything.

* He has too frequent mood swings, outbursts of aggressiveness, jealousy.
* He has sudden mood swings: just been sweet and affectionate
* and suddenly fell into a rage; and vice versa.
* He is easily offended, says that you don’t love him / don’t respect him / don’t want to understand, etc., when in fact he’s just not in the mood.
* It almost always turns out that you are to blame for everything (fault, wrong).
* If something unpleasant happens, he always says that it is because of someone, that someone did it wrong, but some way.
* He constantly reproaches you for something or tries to convict you of something.
* He turns out so that everyone else is to blame for the fact that he is in a bad mood or that he is annoyed.

Pay attention to how he constructs phrases, talking about his mood. A potential tyrant says: “You make me angry”, instead of the usual: “I am angry” (I am angry). Or: "You hurting me by not doing what I tell you."

* At the slightest misunderstanding and misunderstanding, he arranges a tantrum, or a scandal, or begins to sort things out.
* During a quarrel kicks you out.
* If you are in a quarrel, it may interfere with sleep, wakes with fierce curses.
* After a quarrel (calming down or the next day), he may ask for forgiveness (sometimes even cry at the same time!), Or he can explain the outburst of anger by the fact that, supposedly, he thought that you thought so and not that way. In general, it is obvious nonsense.
* Tells about a very difficult childhood, that his parents did not like him, etc.
* Talking about his life, crying.

* In his words aggression is constantly felt: he criticizes you and everyone around, says frankly cruel things.
* He names, humiliates you or other people. Or accompanies stories from his life with insulting characteristics of different people (wife, parents, children, subordinates, colleagues, bosses, neighbors, etc.)
* During intimacy, as if jokingly uses force. He likes to hurl you, hurt you, for example, squeeze your hands tightly or forcibly hold in some uncomfortable position for you.
* With pleasure discusses rape, you feel that this idea is attractive to him.
* When he does not like something, swings at you, barely restraining himself so as not to hit. Or it can even hit, and after that it says that you yourself made him do it (you made me do it), because you don’t understand otherwise.
* He says that he beat (hitting, hit, beat, beating) his wife or ex-girlfriend, explaining that she made him do it (She "made" me do it).
* Threats often sound in his words, like “I'll kill you”, I'll break your neck “(I'll break your neck). Then he says it's just a joke, or that“ That's it they say "(Everybody talks that way) or" I didn't mean that "(I didn't really mean it).

* He explains his rude behavior towards you by being nervous (due to problems at work, due to divorce, etc. etc.).
* You do not like much in his behavior, but he says that then, when you become his wife, everything will be completely different.
* Apologizing after a scandal or outbreak of anger, assures you that when you become his wife, you will never see him angry and gray-haired.

If you notice any oddities in your chosen one, do not persuade yourself, do not close your eyes to this. Better start over - and save time, and save your nerves.
Source: https://ladyfromrussia.com/rus/

 

[Наталья К]

In the city of Donetsk, a religious fraudster and a fraudster are operating. He meets lonely women dreaming of a family on the Internet, begins to inspire everyone that she is the half that he has been looking for all their life for the Most High in heaven, writes very beautiful letters of love and invites you to come to him so that the woman becomes his wife ... He himself is supposedly a widower, works for the GRU. Having succumbed to his bombardment of love, winged women rush to meet him, come from different cities, mainly from Russia. Then he does not meet them alone, it turns out our widower lives with his sister (who in reality is his wife). Possessing an innate charisma and knowledge of female psychology, they already, together with a previously worked out scheme, continue to fool women.

It turns out that our GRU lieutenant general, concurrently, the Metropolitan of the Russian Orthodox Church abroad, and with pleasure will teach our soul mate spirituality, give true knowledge of Christ, which is not found on the Internet or in books. For study, a fee of 200 dollars or euros is taken in the form of a donation to church utensils.

Naturally, Orthodoxy and other religions are blasphemed during studies. This metropolitan enters into sexual contact with women, because according to his teaching, a spiritual body is born in the sacrament of sex, in which the mind of Christ is born. It seems to every woman who met him that she is the only one he has, in fact, every week he has a new woman and everything repeats again. Then he vomits sharply with women in love, and when they again ask him to meet, our general agrees to her only on condition that he will be released only to study spiritual practices. Women have no other choice, because with this behavior of our womanizer, they have a psychological dependence on him - I want to find myself next to this wonderful man again and again ...

So I fell for his bait, but I never had a family, children. She believed the man, fell in love. let into my heart. but later I recognized my beloved on the other hand, and realized that this man simply took advantage of my loneliness, that I had no one and lured anyone into his insidious nets, and then just threw me out of my life .... and it hurts me so much, so unbearably ...

and I don’t know - how to continue living, it hurts my soul - that they used me, and that this man continues to further deceive women, and most importantly, I don’t know how to stop it all !!!!!

 

[Матушкин Андрей Николаевич]

Let's wait for our lawyers.

 

[JR Security Consulting Group]

History is as old as the world ...

 

[Орлан]

and unfortunately there are no grounds for prosecution, all by agreement of the parties ...

 

[Матушкин Андрей Николаевич]

Natalia Are you from Ukraine or Russia ??
With all respect, Andrew.

 

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I agree with Dmitry, there are no grounds for criminal prosecution.
You, Natalya, can only be advised to turn over this page of your life and forget about a person unworthy of your love. More confidence and self-love, then others will love you, and not just villains.
A sense of revenge and resentment destroys you.
Distract your attention to good people and do not be so gullible.
Even from your story it is clear that a person did not bother himself with believable stories - the GRU general and even the metropolitan of the Russian Orthodox Church are a very unusual combination. And taking into account that GRU employees, even if they are retired, are unlikely to have such talkativeness, if you took his stories with at least a little criticism, you could easily determine that this person is not who he claims to be .
Unfortunately, your gullibility let you down.
But do not be upset.
Life is Beautiful. Look for positive points in it.
And, before trusting a person, first look at him better.
Good luck to you!