NLP in the ARD

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Thank you for the article! It’s always always amazing when people start saying, “I saw how he looks, blinks, breathes .... and I can tell a person is lying and telling the truth.” You can know this, but to tell you for sure, since he was picking his nose ..., he is lying and I split him !!!!!! A person must first be studied, in one hour and even a day of conversation I never make any conclusions on verbal.

 

[Julie]

I agree with Alexander. As I wrote earlier, neither a person nor a lie detector can be 100 percent proof. And to assert that after non-verbal communication, I read a book and became an expert - this is nonsense ..
Everything needs to be considered in clusters. First, take into account where at that moment your interlocutor is located. Situation. Who are you for him at the moment - an interlocutor on an equal footing or you occupy a stronger position. Secondly, follow his speech. Speech speed, pitch, suddenly coughing up. Manner of response. Still need to be considered.
I will give examples when non-verbal communication is not taken into account. Exceptionally verbal.
Practice on your children. Well, for example, I ask, "Jule, have you done your homework?" and if I hear with a pause hesitantly "... yeah," or "well, it started, calm down, yes I did, did", or the question asked "Who? I? yes did .." or "did" and she giggled further - It will lead me to the question even without looking at her that there is far from everything is clean. Again, to say that she is lying 100 percent, I do not presume. Rather, she leafed through a book, and that was it. Or another trick. “Jule, did you go to the shower, did you brush your teeth?” Instead of answering, she came up and breathed a minty smell on me. That is another way, when there was no direct answer, which makes me think that she swatted the top of her head with wet hands. And then I passed a finger with toothpaste on my lips. (Well then, for parents, you can’t openly blame the child for lying. Otherwise, you will lose contact with the child. It is better to ask him a couple of questions - bait, you are a detective and you know how to do it, and children usually admit right away ..)