Sexual harassment in the family.

[Матушкин Андрей Николаевич]

My name is Nilufar Khamidova. I registered on your site, the International Association of Detectives, but did not figure out where I should post my message. Therefore, do not consider for impudence that I write to you personally.
I live in Tashkent, Uzbekistan. I have three children, a daughter (13 years old) from my first marriage, a daughter (6.5 years old) from my second marriage and a son (5 years old). I have been living in my second marriage for 8 years. The eldest daughter lives with us. A couple of days ago, she confessed to me that my husband had been sexually harassing her for 4 years. That a couple of days ago he again molested her, but by coincidence, he did not manage to complete it. I began to ask him what he flatly refused and agreed to go for an examination.
The next day (Saturday, March 17, 2012) we arrived at the main office of the SME and there they told us that if there was no sperm, it is hardly possible to prove anything. In any case, I insisted on checking her for the integrity of virginity. The examination results showed that she was intact and there were no absolutely external signs on her organs. There are no scuffs, redness or any other signs of touch and contact with her genitals.
Then, according to her words that he kissed her in intimate places, they asked to make an examination of her panties for the presence of saliva. We were told that it would be difficult to establish. But they did not refuse. The result will be known on Tuesday.
I want to warn and protect my family from lies. Until now, my eldest daughter has repeatedly deceived me, but this should not be the reason for my distrust of her case. On the other hand, in my family there is such a fact as the inconsiderability of my daughter and stepfather. For a long time I led them to reconciliation and thought that now everything would be fine. But the ball is confused. I do not believe either her or him, and I can not trust the results of the examination, because traces may not be found, then the perpetrator will go unpunished.
We are at a crossroads. I need to make the right decision - either to divorce my husband, or my daughter will leave the family. It can't go on like this anymore. But to find out, I need the TRUTH !!!
Is it possible to reveal the truth with a lie detector? And what can you advise me in my very vitally difficult question to get to the bottom of the truth. What other ways are there to find out where the truth is.

Thank you in advance for your attention and time to my letter. I would also be grateful for the assistance you would give me. Help me.

 

[Краев Евгений Леонидович]

Dear Nilufar, turn first to a practicing psychologist (it is preferable that he has a psychiatric education). The problem is not new, and often emotional solutions will only push for the final destruction of the family. Keep in mind that in such situations, adolescents can be quite insidious and play on the feelings of their mother, this happened.

 

[Патрушев Михаил Владимирович]

Alien dark family! Here you have to figure it out and make a decision. In any case (in my opinion) you can no longer keep the marriage bond. The polygraph is also 100% impossible to believe. There may still be a husband ... and you have one daughter. Here you need not a polygraph, but an operational combination-action for your daughter and stepfather. At the same time you are in the middle: husband and daughter don't believe it! But, how did it all begin ?! There is no smoke without fire! I think it is necessary in the very near future to observe them with the recording of events, to listen, etc. Only then will you figure out what’s the matter.

 

[InfoPoisk]

In my opinion, it is necessary to conduct a series of events even before the lie detector:
- conduct a reconnaissance of friends
- conduct a psychological test of both (daughter and husband)
- interview other children
- if the eldest daughter meets with relatives on the father's side to interview them.
These minimum activities will provide the basis for a polygraph survey.
By the way, we recently had information that the stepfather rapes his son. All were raised to the ears, the result - children's fantasies.

 

[частный детектив Хмельницкий]

I personally know our colleague Fetch from Tashkent. It makes sense to contact him and get acquainted. He will give practical advice and tell you what to do best. The administration has its coordinates.

 

[Патрушев Михаил Владимирович]

All were raised to their ears, the result - children's fantasies. [/ Quote]

Most likely so! But, it is better to check and make sure.

 

[Sevhelp]

In my opinion, it is necessary to conduct a series of events even before the lie detector:
- conduct a reconnaissance of friends
- conduct a psychological test of both (daughter and husband)
- interview other children
- if the eldest daughter meets with relatives on the father's side to interview them.
These minimum activities will provide the basis for a polygraph survey.
By the way, we recently had information that the stepfather rapes his son. All were raised to the ears, the result - children's fantasies.

In my opinion, this is the most correct and effective method in this case and does not require any material costs and involvement of third parties in a direct investigation.

 

[Детективное агентство ИКС-Инфо.]

Dear Nilufar, turn first to a practicing psychologist (it is preferable that he has a psychiatric education). The problem is not new, and often emotional solutions will only push for the final destruction of the family. Keep in mind that in such situations, adolescents can be quite insidious and play on the feelings of their mother, this happened.

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[Симферополь]

Interesting thing. Of the practical activities, the following can be recommended:

Vowels (obvious to conflict participants):

1. Conduct a polygraph test with the help of an intelligent polygraph examiner with experience and positive feedback. In this case, you must remember that the guarantee is a polygraph
it does not, but can only give the presence of the test person’s reactions to certain circumstances of the investigated event.
2. Hire a psychologist who is able to identify non-verbal signs of lies to conduct an interview with each of the participants in this situation.

Covert events that can be held in secret from family members:
1. Check saved SMS messages as well as folders with photos and video files from family members, if this has not been done so far;
2. Check which sites were visited from your home computer, as well as search for possible incriminating information on all magnetic media (hard drive, CD, DVD-ROM drives, flash drives, etc.);
3. Get advice from a sex therapist (people prone to pedophilia usually resort to any kind of perversion during sexual contact with adult women). A specialist can describe the preferences and inclinations of your husband yourself.
4. To provoke the situation, leaving the husband and daughter alone in a video and audio-controlled place. Observation will provide the most objective data.
5. Conduct work to identify possibly hidden facts about your spouse’s biography, if there are any “gaps” in your life for you. It is possible to check according to special accounts of the Ministry of Internal Affairs, a conversation with a former wife or cohabitant (if any).

In addition, you can organize a conversation with a psychologist younger children (in extreme cases, if the above activities do not give a certain result).

PS Special thanks to Nilufar Khamidova for the fact that, despite the apparent increased conflict in the situation itself, it approaches the solution of the problem not emotionally, but intellectually, trying to find a solution with a cold mind and establish the TRUTH.

 

[Частный детектив Нижний Новгород]

I completely agree with the opinion of a colleague from Murmansk, you need to turn to a psychologist for a solution to this problem, to conduct a psychological and psychiatric examination of your daughter and husband, but first of all to law enforcement agencies to conduct an investigation.