Hello!
Thank you very much for not disregarding my problem. I carefully read your advice and opinions.
At first, she did not dare to answer, but after the message of Ms. Almazova, she decided.
АНР Полар Фокс said:
Dear Nilufar, turn first to a practicing psychologist (it is preferable that he has a psychiatric education). The problem is not new, and often emotional solutions will only push for the final destruction of the family. Keep in mind that in such situations, adolescents can be quite insidious and play on the feelings of their mother, this happened.
So I'm afraid to be in the "trap" of lies. After all, the family is at stake. My younger ones may be left without a father by my mistake. Or a daughter to lose us, failing to prove the truth.
I do not know psychologists, and I don’t even know where to look for them ... Real specialists! ...
Частный детектив Анжеро-Судженск Кузбасс said:
Alien dark family! Here you have to figure it out and make a decision. In any case (in my opinion) you can no longer keep the marriage bond. The polygraph is also 100% impossible to believe. There may still be a husband ... and you have one daughter. Here you need not a polygraph, but an operational combination-action for your daughter and stepfather. At the same time you are in the middle: husband and daughter don't believe it! But, how did it all begin ?! There is no smoke without fire! I think it is necessary in the very near future to observe them with the recording of events, to listen, etc. Only then will you figure out what’s the matter.
Yes, I agree that the family of others is a darkness. Therefore, I understand that I must figure it out myself. But why should I destroy a marriage in which I have two more children, if these are all the fantasies of my daughter, whose goal is to separate us. If I was not going to save my family, I would not even have made any attempts to find the truth.
After all that has happened, the two of them will never be there again. Even if I (solely for the purpose of checking both of them) return them both to their families (for a while !, having thought of a type, let's forget everything, I forgave you, we will start all over again), they both will refuse to live on together. And he!!! And she!!! I no longer have the opportunity to observe and will not. Therefore, this option disappears.
Детективное агентство. Санкт-Петербург. Аргус. said:
In my opinion, it is necessary to conduct a series of events even before the lie detector:
- conduct a reconnaissance of friends
- conduct a psychological test of both (daughter and husband)
- interview other children
- if the eldest daughter meets with relatives on the father's side to interview them.
These minimum activities will provide the basis for a polygraph survey.
By the way, we recently had information that the stepfather rapes his son. All were raised to the ears, the result - children's fantasies.
As for the intelligence of friends: how about it I would not be ashamed to talk, but she is still that liar. A few years ago, she told an adult (a seller of cakes) that her stepfather was an alcoholic, her mother, too, was beaten. This man accidentally then saw her with her stepfather together, called him aside and told him everything she had told him. That man just knew my husband. For information - my husband is a ulcer and does not drink alcohol at all. In no form. Even beer. Even koumiss. Well, I am even more so. And she came up with this so that he would give her good unburned cakes. She then told us. And the husband forgave her. In general, she repeatedly caught on such a bad lie (maybe this is her hereditary, from the pope).
Psychologist ... for some reason I do not trust them. I heard about them that they always advocate for children ... Although, in any case, as was advised here, not in the form of one hundred percent confirmation, but in order not to regret it later, I must find a good specialist. After all, I don’t have many verification options. And any possible I should not exclude.
She does not communicate with her father's relatives.
Детективное агентство УкрРозыскИнфо said:
I personally know our colleague Fetch from Tashkent. It makes sense to contact him and get acquainted. He will give practical advice and tell you what to do best. The administration has its coordinates.
I would be grateful for the information about him, i.e. coordinates.
Детективное агентство Secret Service Simferopol said:
Interesting thing. Of the practical activities, the following can be recommended:
Vowels (obvious to conflict participants):
1. Conduct a polygraph test with the help of an intelligent polygraph examiner with experience and positive feedback. In this case, you must remember that the guarantee is a polygraph
it does not, but can only give the presence of the test person’s reactions to certain circumstances of the investigated event.
2. Hire a psychologist who is able to identify non-verbal signs of lies to conduct an interview with each of the participants in this situation.
Covert events that can be held in secret from family members:
1. Check saved SMS messages as well as folders with photos and video files from family members, if this has not been done so far;
2. Check which sites were visited from your home computer, as well as search for possible incriminating information on all magnetic media (hard drive, CD, DVD-ROM drives, flash drives, etc.);
3. Get advice from a sex therapist (people prone to pedophilia usually resort to any kind of perversion during sexual contact with adult women). A specialist can describe the preferences and inclinations of your husband yourself.
4. To provoke the situation, leaving the husband and daughter alone in a video and audio-controlled place. Observation will provide the most objective data.
5. Conduct work to identify possibly hidden facts about your spouse’s biography, if there are any “gaps” in your life for you. It is possible to check according to special accounts of the Ministry of Internal Affairs, a conversation with a former wife or cohabitant (if any).
In addition, you can organize a conversation with a psychologist younger children (in extreme cases, if the above activities do not give a certain result).
So I ask you to help me with a polygraph.
SMS checked - nothing. On the computer, they also have nothing. My daughter goes to the Internet with me (there is a password), but her husband does not know how to use the Internet, he is not interested in it.
Sexopathologist - I’m unlikely to tell him anything interesting.
Identification of possibly hidden facts - there are none.
CВладимир said:
I completely agree with the opinion of a colleague from Murmansk, you need to turn to a psychologist for a solution to this problem, to conduct a psychological and psychiatric examination of your daughter and husband, but first of all to law enforcement agencies to conduct an investigation.
Ms. Almazova answered and understood me very well. Thank you very much.
In fact, it is very difficult for me to talk about this. I live now in a fog. Both of these people are dear to me and I never could have thought that I would have to make a choice between them. I dream, like all normal people, of a prosperous family. When the first marriage did not work out, I barely survived the divorce. She lived only for the sake of the child. She lived only by her. And she went to a second marriage for her, so that she had a father. Having met a man who was ready to become a father for her, I acquired a new life. He is very kind in character, very fond of his children, me. During our family life, my daughter and he did not get along, but he, unlike other Uzbeks, did not expel her, but for the sake of me left her with us in our family. I can’t live without her. Although she did not want to live with him ...
Now I'm sorting out our lives in my thoughts. Thousands of thoughts run through my head every minute. Nothing comes down to the fact that he is a maniac, but at the same time, now I don’t trust anything ....
How can I find the truth ??? !!!
Original message
